A mother's role in a boy's life is important but a father 's role cannot be undermined. I know there will come a time when I need to let the father figure take over more in my boy's life. For that to happen, there must be trust. Zech's turning 6 in 2 months' time. There's no better time than now to create opportunities for father and son to bond and enjoy common activities together in a relaxed setting away from our busy city.
We chose a less developed country because it's crucial for a young child to experience what it means to be contented and grateful and learn what physical hard work is.
It was also a wonderful chance for Zech to be more independent as being away from Mummy meant he needed to be more aware and in charge of his daily needs.
A few days before the trip, Zech packed his luggage. I brought out all his clothes and briefed him on what to wear each day. Then I left him to pack, telling myself I'd accept whatever mess he made and just ensured he corrected the mess. But to my surprise, the luggage was neatly packed! I shouldn't have underestimated my boy.
Here's a special exclusive interview with Zech's papa.
1. Why do you think its meaningful and important to have a father and son trip together?
It helps to strengthen the bond between father and son through spending time in engaging in activities and conversing with each other.
2. What did you learn about your son?
That he is actually a very kind, obedient and teachable boy.
3. What do you think Zech learned about you?
That Papa is very careful and protective over his son.
4. Share 1 part of your most precious conversation with Zech.
He shared that he would like to go on a father and son trip again.
5. What was the best thing about this trip?
The cycling and fishing-cum-farming half-day tour around Hoi An.
6. What was the worst?
None that I can think of.
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It was a 4 day adventure with his papa. They took Jetstar to Da Nang. Airport transfer was provided by the host of the villa I booked through airbnb (https://www.airbnb.com.sg/rooms/13388303). Highly recommended!
Day 1:
Cycled to the beach and time for some sand play!
Hoi An is a cycling town. The father cycled every day!
Taking a walk around the ancient town. Hoi An was a busy trading port and now the old town, which is well-preserved, is a UNESCO Heritage site.
On day 2, Zech and his papa signed up for a farming n fishing tour. Highly recommended too!
Check out this link - http://hoianvillageexperience.com/.
Cycled through the paddy fields n visited a farmer. How the picture reminds me of the story 'Rice without rain'!
Water buffalos are used to plough fields. The father had the rare chance to try his hand at ploughing the field! No photo though.
Riding on the buffalo was a real treat!
Fishing on a boat...
Zech's been waiting for this moment! Catching purple crabs in the mangrove was an exhilarating experience for him.
Learning how to make Vietnamese pancakes. Part of their lunch later.
Zech's relaxing with a cup of hot cocoa.
Papa even had a foot massage while Zech relaxed on the bed next to him.
On day 3, Zech experienced 4 different modes of transport. Bicycle, taxi, trishaw and boat.
All smiles on board a sampan in the ancient town.
Trishaw ride ard the town
Yummy pizza. Zech doesn't seem to like Vietnamese food.
The ancient town all lit up at night.
On the last day, Zech swam in the pool.
Had his first bowl of pho and fell in love with it.
Their flight touched down late in the night. Waited up for them. The best things they have brought back from Hoi An, besides a treasure chest of memories, are these beautiful souvenirs.
Grasshoppers made from palm leaves.
Handmade dinos. I love them!
Zech diligently wrote a short journal every day. I know he has enjoyed this trip very much. His description of Hoi An, the Vietnam War and the details he gave me about his travel were great memories to keep. He has seen and experienced a different kind of culture. Not everyone is as blessed as our kids in Singapore are. The values, the close bonding with the father and cultural experience that stemmed from this trip are more precious than a single day in school. And that is how I hope my boys will turn out to be. Strong and resilient with a heart of compassion.
